This is. A delicate subject.
And I sure hope that you are reading this somewhere safe and especially not at work where somebody could peak over your shoulder and discover that you are a repulsive human being.
“Why are you like this, Garry?”
Okay, so, should you date a co-worker or not?
Chances are that you already know the answer to this question. Every person has their own moral compass. And if your gut is telling you “no”…
Well, who am I to tell you otherwise, right?
But then again, why are you even reading this in the first place?
Are you just trying to reinforce what you were going to do anyway? Are you hoping to find some vague Paulo Coelho reasoning that will allow you, let you into a secret taboo circle of passion? The heart wants what it wants and whatnot?
Hey, don’t get me wrong, I am totally onboard with you. Besides, I don’t have any moral high ground here. Office romance can be a source of exciting turbulence in your (let’s face it) very mundane life. And if it works out, then it’s great. And if it doesn’t, you might have to choose between leaving your job or losing your mind. But hey, what’s life without a little risk anyway?
But before you give way to your primal urges, here are a few things you might want to consider.
#1. What is the policy of the company regarding office dating?
There are companies that have a strict no-no policy when it comes to workplace relationships. And they are in their right to do so. The nature of your job might be such that being with a colleague could mess up the specific work dynamics. So be very careful if you are crossing this line. Be very aware of the risks and the consequences of your actions. What if you end up like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie in that secret agent movie?
#2. It might be a good idea to stick to your peers
If you are somebody’s superior, then making a step towards them could be very… unfashionable. They might feel pressured. Or act out of fear of losing their job. On the other hand, the inferior partner might be seen as someone who is just trying to get ahead through unconventional means. A scandal like this might mess up your reputation as a professional for life. For life!
#3. Can you be good friends?
Before jumping into somebody’s pants, ask yourself if you really like this person. Maybe resort to, what I like to call, the masturbation check. (I am still working on a better name for this.)
Here’s how it works.
The next time you masturbate, think about that person. If you are still intrigued by them when you are done, then they pass the check. If not, then your attraction to them might be purely physical.
#4. Can you keep a secret?
If you are worried that your office relationship might lead to some kind of backlash (even if company policy says inter-office dating is okay), then consider keeping things a secret. At least for the first few weeks or months. This, of course, means that you should be careful how you interact with your paramour when you are at work. And you must resist posting “incriminating” material on social media.
And who knows, the element of secrecy might add even more heat between the two of you.